Divided in Love

Read Ephesians 4:2–5

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. —Ephesians 4:2

When public debate erupted over a controversial Singapore law, it divided believers with differing views. Some called others “narrow-minded” or accused them of compromising their faith.

Controversies can cause sharp divisions among God’s family, bringing much hurt and discouraging people. I’ve been made to feel small over personal convictions about how I apply the Bible’s teachings to my life. And I’m sure I’ve been equally guilty of criticising others I disagree with.

Does the problem, I wonder, lie not in our differing views nor even in how we express them, but in the attitudes of our hearts when we do so? Are we just disagreeing with views, or are we seeking to tear down the people behind them?

There are times when we need to address false teaching or explain our stand. But Ephesians 4:2–6 reminds us to do so with humility, gentleness, patience, and love. And, above all else, to make every effort “to keep the unity of the Spirit” (v. 3).

Some controversies will remain unresolved. God’s Word, however, reminds us that our goal should always be to build up people’s faith, not tear them down (v. 29). Are we putting others down to win an argument? Or are we allowing God to help us understand His truths in His time and His way, remembering that we share one faith in one Lord? (vv. 4–6).


How can you explain your stand on sensitive issues humbly, gently, and lovingly?

How will you pray for those who seem to disagree?


God, guide me as I speak the truth so that I do so out of love and seek only to build up, not to tear down.

About the author

Born and raised in Singapore, Leslie Koh spent more than 15 years as a journalist in the busy newsroom of The Straits Times before moving to Our Daily Bread Ministries. He’s found moving from bad news to good news most rewarding, and still believes that nothing reaches out to people better than a good, compelling story. He likes eating (a lot), travelling, running, editing, and writing. Leslie is a regular contributor to Our Daily Bread.

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